AITA for telling my girlfriend she's selfish for crying to me after my brother's funeral
My (20m) girlfriend (22F) always complains and literally cries sometimes about her job which hasn't been a problem until recently. My brother who I was extremely close to passed away unexpectedly about 2 weeks ago. I've barely been holding it together and have been a complete mess.
So about a week ago he had his funeral and my girlfriend can't make it because her boss won't let her take the day off of work which is totally fine and I understand. She meets up with me after work like an hour after the funeral, and starts crying almost immediately. She starts venting to me about how much she hates her boss and her schedule and how bad of a day she had at work. Meanwhile my whole world feels like its completely falling apart and a peice of my heart was ripped out of my chest.
After she's done rambling about work I asked her "why does everything have to be about you? I permanently lost one of the closest people in my life and you're so selfish that you can't even spare me one day of your trivial problems". She stops crying gets mad and drives home and texts me "you're an asshole"
So reddit AITA for calling my girlfriend selfish for crying after my brother's funeral?
Edit: definitely won't be able to respond to everyone was only expecting a couple replies. Common question is if this is reoccurring behavior which it is and extends beyond her work but it doesn't really bother me on the day to day basis, I don't think her problems are actually trivial, I just felt like it was a total lack of awareness of the relativity of our 2 situations
The way you say she stopped crying makes me picture it like a total switch. If she went straight from crying upset about her day to mad at you that's...unnerving