AITA for asking my new BF to spend less time with his late wife’s family?
I (30F) have been dating my new BF (33M) will call him Bill for about 5 months. Bill lost his wife Meg in a car accident last year. They were together for 10 years married for 5 and had a son together. Bills son is now 3.
I feel like Bill and I are really clicking and I like where our relationship is heading he has met my family and gets along with them. My one problem is Bill still spends a lot of time with Meg’s family. He plays softball with Megs uncle and has gone to Megs grandmothers house for dinner with his son a bunch of times. He brings his son to see Megs mother pretty much every week. Bill has never said no to coming with me to my families house and he has asked me to go with him to Megs families house.
I haven’t gone with him to Megs family it feels weird. Well the other night I asked him if he could spend less time with Megs family. He got very quiet and asked why. I said it made me feel like we couldn’t move forward if he was still always seeing Megs family. He said I was ridiculous and that he was going to separate his son from his grandparents and that he views Megs uncle as one of his best friends. We got into a big fight but I still feel he spends too much time with them. Some of my friends agreed that I’m ridiculous AITA?
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YTA. He lost his wife to an accident a year ago and you want him to cut down the amount of time he and their son spend with her family? WTF is wrong with you? He was with her for 10 years. He had a child with her. Her uncle is one of his best friends. You've been dating all of 5 months and you think that gives your governance to ask him to scale back the time he spends with his widow's family?
Your friends are right. You are being ridiculous. You're also being massively insecure. Bill's son nor his connection with his late mother's family isn't going to change any time soon. The only thing that should change is you being in the picture. You're far too immature to handle a relationship of this nature.